Emily Gajda

A breakup or divorce can be an extremely stressful and emotional experience. Whether or not you wanted it to end, it can be hard to prevent anger, fear and grief from taking hold during a difficult separation. However, controlling your emotions and “keeping your cool” is the best way to ensure that a separation, and any corresponding legal proceedings, go as smoothly as possible. Here are 5 things to avoid when going through a difficult separation or divorce:

  1. Don’t lie or try to hide information. Usually, the divorce and separation process involves the exchange of financial and other information between the parties. It is extremely important for everyone involved to be open and honest about their situation in order to achieve a fair settlement and lasting resolution. While it may be tempting to hide information that you don’t think will “help” your case, it is never a good idea to lie or mislead.
  2. Don’t send mean text messages or emails to your ex-partner. There is no better way to inflame a situation than to send unnecessary messages. Screenshots are forever. Inflammatory, accusing or provoking messages could end up in front of a Judge and hurt your position and credibility.
  3. Don’t post about your ex-partner or the separation on social media. Break-ups can be stressful, and in this day and age, one of the most common ways to vent about a stressful situation is by posting about it on social media. However, try to control the urge to post about your situation on social media, as inappropriate social media posts can come back to haunt you during legal proceedings. Think twice about the content and tone of your message before you post.
  4. Don’t forget to change your Will. After a separation or divorce, it’s likely that you will need to update your will to ensure that your financial wishes are followed. Don’t put this off – having an up-to-date will is arguably one of the important things you can do for your children and family.
  5. Don’t involve your children in the dispute. Unfortunately, it is very common for children to get caught up in the middle of a divorce. Don’t speak negatively about your partner in front of your children and don’t ask your children to choose sides. Try to ensure that all of the decisions you make in any legal proceedings are done with your children’s best interests in mind